So, I haven't updated in a while. A week to be exact. In that short amount of time, my bagel count has jumped from 9 to 49. This is exponential. Unprecedented. But, it is also extremely discouraging because out of the 40 I've only connected with 3 and liked 1.
To be fair (on myself), I'll briefly categorize the types of guys that cmb has given to me as bagels and those include guys that have liked my profile as well. There are your typical (rejected) wannabe Asian bros, which I've discussed with Lily, that haven't fully transitioned into a full-fledged Asian bro. This basically means that they still retain a bit of dorkiness (whether it's reflected in the way they dress or in how they describe themselves in their profiles. These are absolutely not my type. I have nothing against them. I think, to their credit, they are most likely very compassionate males who still believe in some form of chivalry. Applaudable.
And then, there are a handful that are actually Asian bros with full on lean muscular builds and pictures of them either outdoors hiking or drinking in a club or something or the other. These are dangerous to me. I just don't trust that lifestyle. My insecurities I suppose. So, they are automatic passes on my end.
I'd like to shift the focus to my 3 connected bagels and the 1 that is still up in the air (but I'm pretty sure by now that I'm not his type).
Connected #1: Goes to the same uni. Pursuing a PhD. Describes himself as "relaxed and open-minded, thoughtful, active, adventurous." He seemed alright. By now, I was already anxious to connect with someone so I try my luck and like his profile. We're connected. He does not message me. A day passes. I ask Lily whether I should give a generic greeting or something abnormal. Before she responds, I send him a message: "beep beep". His reply was boring: "?" I prod him, "Question: what made you use this app?" He answers, "My roommate recommended it. I'm not looking for anything serious right now. Purely sexual would be good, or something little more intimate would be good too." Wow. He was obviously misinformed. I decide that it's not worth it to reply.
Connected #2: Also another PhD student at the same uni. He seemed to hold more potential compared to the first one. Connecting with him was actually a surprise to me. Aside from the usual "outdoorsy" shit, he also described himself as "probably annoying". That caught my interest. I wanted to know how. Never will though. He didn't even reply to my "beep beep". This one's a lost cause.
Connected #3: Before I matched with him, cmb already let me know that "He likes you" so I had nothing to lose on my end. We connected and he was the first to initiate the conversation by answering the auto-generated ice breaker cmb so kindly provides us. The question is about movies so we chat about that for a bit. He steers it into the direction about my profile and why I describe myself as "strange". I get a bit into semantics. He backs off with the predictable line, "I'm just teasing" And segues into another equally predictable move, asking me what makes me strange... Ugh. But, in all fairness, he was trying. And, after realizing he wasn't getting anywhere with that topic, he aborts it and starts anew. "What's your idea of a good time?" I give him my answer. He's since gone awol.
Liked #1: Goes to same uni. Seems humorous and fun. Apparently doesn't want to be like that with me. Oh well.
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So, I'm bored again. I'm bored of the types of guys cmb has to offer. My mind's telling me no, but I go ahead and do it anyway. I convince Lily to make a tinder account again. We're going to mess around. This time, with parameters. 3 days. Asking all our matches why they use the app. Thus far, it's alright. There's an alarming amount of guys on tinder that I share mutual friends with. I'm not sure what to make of that yet. I also matched with a couple of them. This is bizarre.
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